Reconnecting with an Old Friend

While I was in Minneapolis, I had to a chance to reconnect with my first BF, Matt. We dated like 10 years ago (wow) and we still remained friends.

Matt is doing good in Minnie; he's the king of diversity education, in a gay baseball team and in a gay men's choir. He has achieved so much and I'm proud of him.

We had lunch, talked about our lives and futures. It was really good to see Matt after 6 years. And I was glad to know he has stayed on the up and up. He's such a great person.

The Different Sides of Me

Have you ever thought about the different parts of yourself? You know the gay side, the masculine side, the weak side and the dark side of you.

I actually sat down and wrote them out, so here they are:

• My 'Mommy' side - I'm usually the caregiver and the opinionated one of my friends. I give tough love to my pals and keep it real. I can be a bit harsh, but I do it out of love.
• My 'Whitley' side - I'm a former snob and a child from an upper middle class background; so my taste in clothes, eyeglasses, food and style is a bit bougie. It's not the best thing about me, but it's a part of me.
• My 'Guy' side - That only comes out in the gym. I kinda giggle at myself when this side comes through. But it fades when I'm on the treadmill, listening to disco.
• My 'Geeky' side - Well, I think y'all see this side through the blog.
• My 'Work' side - I can multitask like a mofo. Once I get into making charts, assessment or reports there's no stopping me.
• My 'Dark' side - When I get angry, it's serious. One example is when I had a hit and run, I tried to hunt down the guys that hit me. I had no idea what I would have done, I just know I wanted revenge. I might need to keep that in check.
• My, well 'Tremaine' side - This is my sexual side (Tremaine is my middle name). To be honest, this is a side I'm learning to be more comfortable with. My Southern upbringing has kept me from being a whore hound, but 7 years ago I explored my sexual side. Turns out, I'm open to different things but I'm still a prude at heart.
• My 'Big Mouth' side - I'm an extrovert. I love people and talking, so I can be the party boi.
• My 'Mule' side - I can be stubborn and set in my ways. I hate to be wrong about anything, but I'm a lot better than I was 10 years ago.

So that's me... How many sides do you have?

Me in 1988

To see this picture of me is a reminder of what used to be.

A pure dreamer
Sad
Overly optimistic
A person who thought my desires were sinful
A kid who was afraid to be alive
Full of ideas, wishes and innocence
A boy who wanted the same things as other teens
A believer in so many things
A boy who dreamed of kissing another boy
A voracious writer and reader
A boy who knew things will get better

At 14, I didn't know what was coming; but I knew there was more out there. Thank Hera, I made it through to see my dreams come true.

What's going on with me?

Hi All

I thought I would give y'all an update on what's happening with me and my life. So, here we go in my favorite style... Bullet Point.

• I'm helping out with Bent-Con, a LGBT Comic-Con in Los Angeles. Lead by the incredible Sean Z, we are in the beginning stages of what will be the biggest LGBT geek event of the year.
• I'm completing my fourth year at USC as an Assistant Director of Res Life. The students, the trips and the glory has been crazy, but now the chill time begins.
• Well, I take that back. I decided to take 2 classes this summer. One is about creating a TV pilot and the other class is about making my full feature script worthy to be picked up. Hopefully, I can take 'Shadow Boy' to the next level.
• I'm trying to make it to New York City this summer; but with work, classes and Comic-Con, it's going to be tough.
• My best friend, Tavares may be moving to L.A. He will stay with us for a bit and then he will take over the town. I'm hoping my other friends follow suit.
• I've been doing the Insanity workout for 4 weeks now, and I have to say it is a miracle worker. It kicks my ass, but my body is taking shape.
• I'm realizing that L.A. could be home for me and Jamie. 
• My mom just found out that she have a huge plot of land in her name down in Tennessee. She's working with the lawyer to see what to actually do with it.
• I got some new readers.

Well that's if for me. What about y'all?